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Nigerian Dating Scams

| Anti-Scam Tips | April 6, 2012

The popularity of online dating has caused an increase in dating scams. Perhaps the most known is the Nigerian dating scam. Singles looking for love online should be on the look out for this scam. Nigerian scams are often not easy to detect. Indeed, the Nigerian scam artist is a whole different breed. For one, he (or she) is usually of a higher education level, often a college or university graduate or higher. Secondly, they do their homework. Thirdly, they can be exceptionally patient. Plus, some of them could rival an Oxford English professor in language prowess, especially written language.
The scammer posts a fake profile on a dating site, and often multiple dating sites. Chat rooms and social networking sites are also often targeted, as well as Christian and other religion-based dating sites. Scammers seem to prefer using white people images, apparently cashing in on certain perceptions and stereotypes. The photograph is usually magazine cover quality, and of an exceedingly individual. The photographs are usually stolen from modeling agencies. They also use pictures of foreign models and celebrities not known in the target country. Photographs from other dating profiles have also been known to be used. In a way, the people whose images are used in these scams are victims as well.
Often, scammers prefer to use female photo profiles. Lots of men will respond to an attractive woman’s personal ad, based on a picture alone. This is not to say that women don’ get scammed. They do get scammed, by men or by other women depending on the person’s sexual orientation. In most cases, scammers target older (middle-aged) people seeking long term relationships. At this age the person is likely to be desperate therefore gullible and this age group is likely to be financially stable. Contact is initiated, often but not always, by the scammer.

The stage is set and now begins the grooming phase. The grooming phase is when the relationships and trust are built. The scammer claims to be a business executive or some type of expert from the US, Canada or the UK (or other country) temporarily working for his company in Nigeria or other African country. The fraudster knows all the right things to say and will put you on a pedestal. Before long, you are in the greatest romance journey of your life. Or so you think. Soon he/she declares love. He/she might even send you a few romantic gifts, bought with stolen credit cards. Once a trusting bond has been established, you are ripe for picking. This can take up to twelve months (talk of patience) and often there is promise of marriage. Then the scammer asks for a big favor. The scammer claims that his employer has been paying him in money orders or cashiers checks, which due to differences in banking systems he cannot cash in Nigeria (or other country). The victim is asked to cash the money orders or checks and then wire the money to the scammer via Western Union or Moneygram. He/she might be asked to keep a portion of the money for his/her troubles. This serves a dual purpose: it helps build trust and also turns the victim into a beneficiary and participant in the scam. The money orders or checks will turn out fraudulent. It usually takes most banks anywhere from a couple of days to a couple of weeks to clear a check or money order. The scammer is counting on this, and by the time the con is exposed he/she has disappeared, leaving you to pay the bank and/or even face prosecution for participating in the fraud.

Nigerian dating scam does not always involve money, however. Some scammers are out to use your name and address to ship goods bought with stolen credit cards. The goods are first shipped to you, and then you are asked to reship to the scammers chosen destination which is usually in Nigeria. Though most forms of communication are used, including email, Instant Messaging, and Chat, the scammer will shun live video chat. This is because the photographs used are not real.
The excuse often is lack of the technology in Nigeria. The scammer can usually hire a voice of the right gender, and even accent, for a phone conversation. As a final point, just because it’s called Nigerian romance scam does not necessarily mean it’s done in or out of Nigeria. Due to mistrust of anything involving Nigeria, con artists have started operating from other countries of West Africa such as Ghana and Benin.

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  1. Michele, I have gone through a scenario pretty much like you only with someone els, however, he has never called me then amens that you have been called. I have slowed down the money and he Wa still talking day and night. He also knew at the beginning that I really did not have a lot.unfortunately I fell for all of his BS and have sent a lot if money over there to Nigeria and he was soused to be coming home numerous times and there has always been an excuse why he did not come.

    I have always fallen for his excuses, mainly I believe because I wanted too and I did not want too believe that I was layed as I call it. Did not want too wake up because I enjoyed talking to him and Iwabted to continue. There were times that I did not send anything and he did not all me those kind of names you have been called he would say he understood. He kept communicating with me and there were times thatI would say that I saw information about him meaning I saw his pictures online that he was a scammer and he would say something like his pics were stolen off of his facebook site and that he could not get I to his account that the password had been changed . That he was the person in the picture and that his identity had been stolen , etc. so I would believe him over and over I guess because Ai wanted too. Which it sound like to me that you want to believe also the same thing in your scenario. However, I think it is time I slow down andsmellybe roses and o through all of the information I have to make a decision. Which I know should be to cut all communication off and see what happens. Now he issupposedto be inthe hospital according to his friend and has gotten shot during a bank Robert over there and the robbers shot jimbecausexhe refused to give him thexmoney so they shiot him. Then they took the money and continued to shoot him. Now he is supposed to be inthe hospital unconscious and on oxygen and needs surgery to get the billets out and he will need blood during the procedure and they want a certain amount of money for tbe whole process. So of course they want money from me because he was there picking up money to come home to see me. So I should send more money to get him better because he got shot trying to keep the money to come Hone It never stops! So basically I am done Zi am tired of the whole thing . So Michele it seems like they never stoa d they prey onprople like us who are ulnera keand want to help people but we have to wake up and see the whole picture!

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  2. Michelle Brown on August 24, 2013 @ 2:49 am

    Has anyone heard of Jesse Patten or Thomas Benson?? I have been communicating with Jesse since July 2013. Posted pics & ad in M4W personals both in Springfield, IL and Dallas, TX I have had the misfortune of sending three 50 dollar transfers via Western Union. They have been received by a Saheed James. I had the fortunate opportunity of actually getting into his yahoo email because he wanted me to set up a “dating profile” for Saheed because Saheed for so nice to help him out by picking up his money I had sent him. “Jesse” was giving me emails and passwords to use “so quickly” that I thought to use one of the passwords as his own personal password to his email address. GUESS WHAT!!! it worked and I was able to see that he was only emailing one person at a time. I actually forwarded some of these emails to my own personal email. I contacted two of them but only one of the women contacted me back.. At the time, I was looking through his email, he changed the password for I was unable to send very many.
    So have anyone responded to cuteman3940@Hotmail.com (I think Hotmail address or cutejesse007@yahoo.com. He also has a facebook page and the very last posting of his says that Thomas Benson changed his profile picture. I tried going to the link but it said no longer there. I have pics, all emails, yahoo conversations, and texts from him. His six week stint in Nigeria as a mechanical engineer has gone for 8 weeks now and now he needs more money to keep his phone on or soon disconnected, his internet at hotel not working because he can’t pay, always starving to death as 50$ doesn’t buy much groceries, and now mneeds tools in order to finish his job otherwise he has to stay longer and delay his flight plans. today I was a lazy fucking bitch, I’ve been a pathetic bitch, and a poor ass bitch. . The talking has ceased at night because of sic hours difference. when the money stops flowing, the talking stops, texts are similar to English talking as well as the messenger conversations. of course, he can’t provide a phone number I can call him at either at the Ekos Hotel or provide a room number. I searched his phone number and it comes up as a google phone VOIP or voice over internet protocol. anyone can get a free phone number from google and have it ring on as many land lines or cell phones as you want. you can enter a specific word or number and it will give you several choices to pick from. I got one myself. so. this is my story. Not 100 percent sure he is. I should believe that he is. the money is stopping and I continue to irritate the hell out of him. it’s funny. so please if anyone knows anything else let me know.

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  3. Steelmom00 on August 8, 2013 @ 6:00 pm

    Anyone here of Milan Hamar? He found me on Christian mingle. Said his wife and son died 10 yrs ago. He did infrastructures with a bit of structural engineering. He professed his love for me two days after we started talking. He new I was skeptical of him from the start , so he showered me with love letters that were in perfect English, his text were not. And inserts from the bible to win me over. He kept telling me how rich he was and that I would never need anything or want for anything again… So I thought how is he planning to scan me. Well then it happened today. He took project in Ghana. He said flight was ruff, lost his lap top and $5000 in cash.. But he did not ask for help..just tried to make me feel guilty. Funny this was not even the same guy I had been texting. I blocked him and will be very cautious next time. Learned a lot from this website.

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  4. hi, has anyone heard of a patrick cook from mylasia, that has an ill daugher and says he is an engineer and requesting lots of money, please help.

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  5. all of these have elements of what “Tony Williams” said to me. guess there is nothing new under the sun.
    be on the lookout for dear “Tony”. Like the others, he is smoothe talker with all the right words.

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  6. anyone know a Tommy Bruno? on many dating sites. says he was from UK and went to Benin City,Nigeria for a contract (gold mining) and his equipment broke down and he needed money. then he was hospitalized for broken leg , needed money for his hospital bills, then he couldn’t pay his hotel bill, I is sleeping in the lobby of hospital. the latest is he has malaria and in hospital again. he is a scammer, very patient and says the right things. this has been going on for 6 months now. Please help me find him.

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  7. I have been scammed by Thomas Johnson. who said that He is a mining engineer in Shell , londan. but He always travell to work somewhere such as Venezuala or anywhere. and try to sent fake paercel to me with tracking number. The parcel always on hold in malysia. The fake express company asked for fee to release the parce. but I heard the same story form my friends before. So I don’t believe , I didn’t loss my money for them. Then I told him that I knew he is scammer. He sent e mail back to me and said He will stole my pics form dating site to scam other. I blocked his id after that.

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  8. nadia higins on August 25, 2012 @ 12:58 pm

    I would like to know is anyone knows this name JAYDEN JAY GRAHAM living in lagos Nigeria be careful he is Nigerian scammer he has some storys his wife past away and he has a daugther name Kathy and he ask me for 58.000 thausand to bring his equipment in Australia but not me he wasnt that lucky . If anyone know this name Please sandcomments maybe this person lost his id to someone and he dont even know . Nadia

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  9. Man by the name of Shylon Cole, said he lives in Bristol but has contract work in Nigeria, has 4 yr old daughter that his wife died giving birth to her and she was looked after by a Nanny in UK. His parents died, no brother or sisters. Said all those sweet things, sunshine, babe, sweetie…bla, bla..then he gets stuck with having to pay some Taxes, or otherwise he cant get his money for the job he’d done and he needs help with some money, said he’s phoning all his friends for help and he’s even had to contact the Nanny to get money out of his daughters bank account to help. 3 weeks contacting me by email and chatting on messenger. But tonight I realised that this was a scam..I am one of the lucky ones and didnt send him any money.
    Be careful ladies and good luck..x

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    • Thank you for information Jools , I To Know the name of this man SHYLON COLE who had me fooled until this morning .. Declaring his dieing love ,with Romantic love letters and truffle .. But I Soon Realised this man his NO MORE THAN A FRAUDSTER AND FAKE IMPOSTER … Begging me for £7000 and also £3000 …. I CLEARLY SMELT A RAT …I have sent him a letter Today 13th August 2012 …… After my suspicions were raised even more .. with the continual Begging for money … i too am one of the lucky one ,And never sent him a penny …

      ALL LADIES LOOKING FOR LOVE BE CAREFUL AND GOOD LUCK ..

      LADIES PLEASE READ ; WHEN HE COULD NOT GET ANY MONEY FROM ME ;

      Come on sweetie … i thought you trusted me? so you have to meet me before you
      help me ? How will i get food and make calls? i used all my calling cards on you … This is really getting messy here and i need your help right now. you have to help me please send me the money because i need it badly. Trust me …i will pay you back i promise … i need you more than every right now …

      The Hotel manager have been in my hotel more than 3 times this morning , you know everything already sweetie ,why do you change your mind all nighT ?

      so you believe i will let you down? i see do bad right now . you have to understand if i Dont pay this money i will be send out of the hotel… and something bad will surely happen …i am so scared right now..

      Please I beg you in the name of GOD … send this money and i will pay you as soon as i can okay ….

      SCAM SCAM SCAMMER!!!!!!!!!

      Dated: 8th August 2012

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      • Thanks very much for doing this to me, you never send me any money and you are putting my name on scam list for no reason. I am crying right now because none of this is truth..
        Why are you tarnishing my image? My integrity is more important than what you claim i requested from you.. May god forgive you and your conscience will surely judge you..
        Shylon..

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  10. Any one ever hear of Mike Gray Nelson? claims to live in Dallas Texas and working in Nigeria. Claims his wife died from breast cancer 5 years ago and claims he has a 12year old named Frank. Of course beautiful words and pics but a really bad copy of his birth certificate.

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  11. anyone been scammed by Tope Claire Williams. She said shes in Nigeria working but ran out of money and her parents died 2 years ago in a car wreck she moved to the states to stay with her granny who died last year?

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  12. Anyone hear of Robert Evans? Working in Nigeria as petroleum consultant… I guess even when we think we are smart and educated we get scammed.

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  13. George Patterson is a filthy Nigerian Scammer. Do not fall for georgepa01live.com. In addition to info found on 101date.com, I had been talking to a real soldier who had been in Afghanistan. They do not get to take a vacation and go back to Afghanistan. Once there, they serve their time and then leave and get to use their accumulated leave. I really wish we could find this guy. He was incredibly smooth, but he will get caught. Also, the guy whose pictures he is using, is not a Marine’s uniform (it’s actually Air Force). I’m not sure the guy in the fatigues is acutually the same person, but those fatigues are Army issue. I keep searching for a way to find him…

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  14. Beware of this woman Ethel Nelson of Nigeria, she is currently active under http://www.facebook.com/myangelicheart and http://en.netlog.com/ethelnelson/
    Even Nigerians need to beware of this woman, she is absolutely only interested in money but she will change her attitude accordingly to try attract both men and women for both romance and friendship who she can manipulate into getting money for her. Her most manipulative method is to befriend people in her own country whom she will try to get them to do the dirty work for her, then once she realizes they don’t scam their foreign friends for money, her true colors about her selfishness come right out! Who knows what insane scam she is and will be trying to pull. If you know this women or others like her, please beware. Their tactics are getting more and more complex.

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  15. any one come across Master Sgt Steven McCabe – steven mccabeyahoo.com – I even have a scanned image of his passport and a photo of him and his children supposedly taken outside his house in New York – - he is stationed in Baghdad Iraq and in order to speak to him I need to pay £380 for satelite connectivity – he is quite convincing so beware.

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  16. Here’s a really sick twist to the whole scam. I met one “George” who claimed he was a US Marine in Afghanistan. It was all very plausible. Very smooth operator. Wrote detailed letters, probably with an open tab on Reuters. Went by the email of georgepa01live.com. Scum!

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    • My friend also was scamed by georgepa01live.com, said he was Lt Col George Patterson US Army, stationed in Afganistan. If you google his email or search on facebook by his email it comes up Nigerian Scams. She met him on westernmatch.com. She says he hasn’t asked for money and is flying in Tue to stay with her for three months. I have sent her all I have found but I don’t think she believes it.

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  17. I recently started talking to a guy that said in his profile he was from canada but it turns out he is in Nigeria on a job…I want to find out if he/she is a scammer, so I wont give too much info right now…but I’ll let you know.I have pictures and e-mail that I will post later

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  18. james boone on May 10, 2012 @ 9:13 am

    well i think but do not know if i’ve been scammed yet. The conversation all of a sudden got serious within a few days. She is a missionary named Betty Williams. Kind of familiar name. There was a Betty williams That had a missionary foundation started about 30 or 40 years ago in Nigeria and she won the Nobel peace prize for her work done there. So I’m unsure of what to believe. Then a couple day later received another email notification of a girl named Mary Tracy and I do believe it to be fraudulent. She says she’s from Kentucky but can’t write good english and used Russian like speech. Guess she’s a scammer. Learning my lesson is hard and won’t so easily be taken advantage of again! Count on it!

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  19. Dennis Hodges on May 10, 2012 @ 9:11 am

    What is with all these “women” who ID themselves as being from America, but later in the correspondence they say they are actually from Nigeria or on “business” in West Africa? I tried “Mate1″ for two months, and nearly one-half of the profiles were like this. The others were scams from Russian and the Ukraine. I guess I better stick to a search on the homefront

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  20. I have been scammed by a Nigerian scamming expert. He goes by the name of David Scott dvscott18yahoo.com. Tenancious and patient, he will eventually ask for money. He asked me to send him money after 2 1/2 months of professing his eternal love for me. He claims to be widower, wife died in car crash, one daughter, rest of family dead. Won a large contract with Shell Petroleum and staying in London until project is completed. Wanted to meet when he got home to Virginia…Gets deathly sick and needs money to pay for hospital bill. This man is all over dating sites with hundreds of different aliases. I found duplicate pictures on different sites, but with altered stories. Beware…of David Scott! He’s charming but bold and manipulate. PLEASE don’t get caught in this scammers web of lies and deceit! He ALMOST got me! Thankfully, I did not send money. Emotionally drained by this scammer, I will rise above it and continue to find my true love.

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  21. The sites are full of scammers, false pictures, profiles. I’m a legal professional of 30 years, my kids grown and gone and ready for a relationship. Thought I had found the man of my dreams … met him on SeniorPeopleMee t ended up with a broken heart but my pocketbook intact. Please, anyone reading this, if your guy/gal uses “i” “cos” and talks with pathetically poor grammar, they are a scammer. If they profess their love to you after a few days or week, they are a scammer. If they immediately want you to go to yahoo, they are a scammer. If they use a yahoo phone number or ask you to call them, they are a scammer. If they ask you for money because they are stranded or have a sick family member, they are a scammer. Please, if you have any doubts, go to the romancescams web site, go to the FBI romance scams web site. Please be safe, protect yourself, and turn these Nigerian scammers in to the FBI, Interpol, and the Nigerian police. Help us get rid of these jerks from the U.S.

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